Finding My Soulmate

"A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we're safe in our own paradise."
-- Richard Bach


I don’t think I ever fully understood what it meant to have a soulmate until I met mine. A soulmate is defined as a person with whom one has a strong affinity, shared values and tastes, and often a romantic bond, but it’s so much more than that. A soulmate to me is someone who knows exactly what you're thinking or how you’re feeling without speaking a word, someone who puts your feelings in front of theirs, that loves you so much they would do anything for you, a soulmate is someone that finishes your sentences and see’s you for who you really are and loves you because of it.

I met my soulmate, Anthony, this past summer and knew he was the one after the second time we hung out. I’ve never been so loved by a man. He knows how to make me smile; if I’m sad he holds me in his arms and wipes my tears away, if I’m energetic he runs around the house with me and makes me laugh until I cry.

Every love story is different, there is no right or wrong way to falling in love. Some people date for years before getting married, some people find their soulmate in high school and some fall in love within a few months. Some people wait until marriage, some get pregnant before marriage and some don't. The beauty of it all is everyone has a different way of finding their soulmate, which makes their story special.

I’ve had lots of girls email me asking me how to find true love now that I have found Anthony. The truth of it is, I finally stopped looking for someone. For so long I wanted to find love, I watched my parents as a role model relationship, then saw my sister find her soulmate, I even saw my little brother falling in love. I so badly wanted what they all had; I wrote a note to God letting Him know I was ready to meet my soulmate. Six months after I wrote that letter I met Anthony. I think during the time right before I met Anthony I was really focusing on my career and myself. I wasn’t looking for love anymore, love found me.

It was so easy falling in love with Anthony because we were simply supposed to; it was in God’s plan for us. I feel like when we were around other people they knew we were soul mates as well. When Anthony and I met he played for Texas Rangers. His teammates teased him and told him we would be engaged by summer. My niece was so in love with him after the first time she hung out with him. She kept saying, “where’s AB”? (Anthony Bass). It’s like she knew he was going to be her uncle, and I once asked his nephew to spell my name out to see if he could spell it correctly; he wrote out Sydney Bass.

When something is meant to be it will always happen. Anthony and I were meant to be. I love him so much, I’ve never had a man tell me he loves me and I’ve never told a man I loved him until Anthony. I wanted to save those three words for the man of my dreams.
I feel like I’m in a romantic comedy with him many times throughout the day. Last night he danced with me in the hall of our first home together, held me and told me he couldn't wait to see me walk down the isle in my white dress. I feel like I am living in a fairytale and look forward to every moment of our happily ever after.

LifestyleAustin Payne